Average amount of sex per week??
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1x a week usually on the weekend during the kids’ nap time or when we have a date night = big win. 2x a week with some combo of that and I feel like a sex goddess. And when I say sex goddess, seconding @monet2988 in this is not my most sexy era. We’re usually way too tired after bed and bath and dinner and all the things on “school nights” but we try to make the it happen once in a while. That said, while I miss the “lust” of our early days, I really love the “intimacy” and security and feel really happy and satisfied with our love life. Instead of only focusing ONLY on the sex we make it a priority to do other physical touch lovey-dovey things (cuddling on the couch with no phones, ditto in bed before we go to sleep, holding hands when we walk, hugs when we start the day, etc.). It’s easy to go into auto pilot mode and “forget” to do that sometimes but we agree those things are very meaningful to us even when we are too tired for sex during the week. That stuff probably isn’t everyone’s cup of tea but the point is just that we talked about it and agreed we like having our sex on the weekends when we aren’t so ragged out and distracted and that these other things are joyful and special to us too. Having talked about it has kept me from overthinking and over analyzing and death spiraling on the topic because at the end of the day “normal” and “average” is really just what’s good for yall.
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Oh wow good for y’all! We are at a 1-2 a month 🫣
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It all depends on what is going on in our life at the moment. Work is stressful and kids aren't sleeping? Maybe once a month. If things are running smoothly in our household and everyone is sleeping then maybe once a week.
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Wow, I’m honestly really surprised by these answers. I think it has to do a lot with how many kids you have, how well everyone is sleeping, jobs/stress at work. Ebbs and flows but about once a month right now. We’re just in an exhausting season but we both realize that and connect in different ways too
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We (mainly me) also struggle with exhaustion come 6pm. We tried something recently that worked well…we hired a babysitter and added time before so she would be at our house while we were getting ready. I had a glass of wine before she came over and went upstairs once she arrived and we were intimate before going on date night. She had the kids in the backyard playing.
Not feasible every time but a good work around when it works!
Came home from date night and passed out
we felt more connected during date night too -
1/2 times a week right now. All depends on what life is throwing at us. #4kids
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Honestly we’re at like 2 times a month the mom burn out is real
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1-2 on a non exhausted week and not a lot of chaos going on.
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1x a week! But a really amazing 1x a week
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1-2 times…
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Once a week on a good month.
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1/2 times a week right now. All depends on what life is throwing at us. #4kids
@Lonestarlittles this made me LOL . I can relate .
