I'm so sorry you're going through this. I have 3 kids too and have definitely been depressed. So has my husband. Individual therapy has helped me so much. I started anti depressants recently too, and it's been GREAT. But, if someone was asking my husband this question when I was at my lowest - I think I would say: hang out with me... listen to me without offering me a solution... show me that you SEE me. I hope this is helpful!!!